“Our species is the only creative species, and it has only one creative instrument, the individual mind and spirit of a man. Nothing was ever created by two men. There are no good collaborations, whether in music, in art, in poetry, in mathematics, in philosophy. Once the miracle of creation has taken place, the group can build and extend it, but the group never invents anything. The preciousness lies in the lonely mind of a man.”—East of Eden
“Time interval is a strange and contradictory matter in the mind. It would be reasonable to suppose that a routine time or an eventless time would seem interminable. It should be so, but it is not. It is the dull eventless times that have no duration whatever. A time splashed with interest, wounded with tragedy, crevassed with joy - that’s the time that seems long in the memory. And this is right when you think about it. Eventlessness has no posts to drape duration on. From nothing to nothing is no time at all.”—East of Eden
I don’t mean for this to be one of those pathetic “I wish everybody would just get along” kind of things, but think about this:
Every time you were motivated to buy that new “something” because you wanted to be better than “her”
Every time you’ve been given the “up down”
Scanning the room the moment you enter a party to see if anybody “one-uped” your wardrobe
Saying something to your friend *only* because she said the same mean thing to you last week and you’ve been cataloging it in your mind for the perfect back-lash moment all that time
Listening to what someone has to say only so that you can pick up on the first chance to turn it back around to you
Having that done to you.
Lieing to a friend when they ask your honest opinion just to “speed things along” or not have to deal with “damage control”
Hoping the worst for the people you’re supposed to love.
Always trying to be one step ahead.
If we’re brutally honest with ourselves, *every* girl can admit to having acted this way at least once, and - if not - we can definitely remember having been treated this way ourselves.
What if we truly, honestly, put all that energy we spend scrutinizing the girls around us and using the weight of pushing them down in order to spring ourselves up and instead just lifted them up. What if we took the times that we felt insecure about ourselves and turned it around to appreciate the wonderful friends we have and women that are in our lives and the beauty that is special and found only us.
Maybe if we spent our time lifting up the women around us, they would - in turn - pull us up with them. It would surely be much more efficient.
Do you ever regret or wish you could take back anything you've done in the last 5 years?
If I were to say no, that would make every apology I’ve made the past five years obsolete - of course there are things that I wish I could “undo”, things that I wish I hadn’t exposed myself to, and things I wish I hadn’t said. Thank goodness I serve a God who can turn all things around (even my daily, massive screw-ups) and use them according to his purpose in and through my life, because the fact of the matter is that I *can’t* take it back. I just hope that as I grow in the wisdom and knowledge of Christ, these mistakes will become more sparse and the weight of my regrets will become lighter.
would you ever expose your true feelings about a certain someone by anonymously telling him on formspring?
Honestly, I know this is awfully cliche and “expected” of me, but I’m getting a little restless/irritated with formspring for this very reason. Though I’ve been known to ask some really ridiculous questions via formspring “anonymously” (or not-so-anonymously as I realize with horror. Example: “can I clip your toenails?” [OH NO! I’M LOGGED IN!]) and its nice to both receive and give anonymous compliments, formspring is an outlet that I think should be used for fun and to challenge people - not to cowardly hide behind the guise of “anonymity” with things that you actually wish that person will figure out.
Basically, no. If I have strong opinions (or questions, for that matter) - positive *or* negative that I have for the people I care about, I would tell it only under my actual alias and (hopefully) in person.
I’m working on holding myself to a certain standard of propriety and character where I conduct myself only in ways that I hope people would have the courage and respect to act towards me.
Even though we like to pretend that things like formspring or facebook aren’t “real life” - they are. And there are real people and real feelings involved and those are something extremely sacred that shouldn’t be tampered with, teased, or deceived.
“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”—Henri J.M. Nouwen (via julie911) (via quote-book)
This is a really difficult question to answer. For now, based off of the research and knowledge to this point that I have on what the Scriptures say about that, I believe that - as a result of the Fall as well as the roles that God designed women and men to have - women are restricted by the Word from *teaching* men or having *spiritual authority* over them, *within the context of the church*. This obviously doesn’t mean that I believe women shouldn’t be CEO’s or the President (that’s an entirely different conversation), but that based on what the Bible says, this logically precludes women from serving as pastors or preachers.
I would like to emphasize that this doesn’t not undermine the importance of women in the Church or depreciate their value and is in no way “sexist.” As a matter of fact, it specifies their ministry and purpose that is in accordance with God’s gift to women and His plan.
Rather than me patching (sloppily) together an explanation for why I believe this is so, I’ll reference you to the best article to date that I have yet (please, prove me wrong) to find logical or Biblical error in, and trust as a solid explanation:
Regarding the "Everything" question... Gonna go with A.
I’m really sorry this took me 5 months to reply to. Really sorry. I’ve let a lot of questions kind of just stock up in my inbox because I’ve been too lazy to answer them, but if I have a formspring I really shouldn’t just have people ask me questions that I never intend to answer…so I’m horribly sorry to keep you waiting.
This also poses the problem of the fact that this doesn’t make sense to anyone reading it now that its been 5 months.
To clarify, this person asked me “God is everything, yes?” to which I asked them to clarify what exactly “everything” implied, to which they replied with option “A” that I gave them, which was “an integral part of everything in the world.”
Anyways, to answer your question, yes I do agree that God is delicately interconnected to everything good in the world. I say good because anything with sin is apart, separated, or *without* God, which is the very definition of sin itself.
However, I think the original question was driving at something existential and slightly mystical, to which I would like to assert that my God is a God of knowledge and heavenly logic, and there are concrete truths revealed to us through his Word that we base our belief, life, and Faith in. If by asking if God was “everything” you were suggesting that God is some mystical entity that we can just “feel out” as our main authority and basis of faith, then no, I don’t agree. God never calls us into blind oblivion like that, but rather loved us enough to reveal Himself to us through His Son, and through His Word.
you've spoken of losing weight onlinezz different places - how/how're you doing it? I need inspiration! you look great! (o:
aklsdjf;aiwejfalskfj I wrote a really long answer to this and then formspring ate it! Perhaps that’s my cue to “control my portions” a little more (excuse the pun) ;)
Honestly, people become overweight and unhealthy for so many different reasons (bad habits, laziness, emotional issues, boredom, lack of prioritizing), so what worked for me may or may not work for you. All I can say is that *there is no short cut to health*. There’s no “drink this drink and you’ll look like Madonna” and there’s no easy work-out routine that’s actually effective. Being healthy is hard work, especially when its new to you.
For me, I luckily wasn’t(am not?) over weight because of some intense emotional issue or anything, I was just uneducated and had grown up forming bad habits. When I turned 18 I realized that I was an adult and I couldn’t blame my family or my upbringing anymore - it was literally in my hands.
So I started doing the research and getting myself educated. Luckily my mom had started traveling down the “organic/natural health” and so knew a lot of things about it and was already buying things that were “good” for me, so it was available, and also I have a close family friend who is an *expert* who is always around to help. Changing habits and getting healthy isn’t something that you can do on your own.
There are a lot of different opinions out there on what exactly is “healthy.” Some things are pretty black and white (ex: you shouldn’t live off of cheetos), where as other things (organic vs inorganic and if its really worth it) (or whether or not you should consume milk products) are a little more controversial. All I know is that I base my newly-formed habits and my life off of knowledge from people that I trust and the bodily results I’ve seen and felt.
It’s a lot easier to be motivated when you’re not actually working towards “being skinny” but rather “complete health.” A common-told mantra to myself is “nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels.” Of course I’m not perfect, which is why I’m only half the way to where I need to be, and health is a life-long journey, so once I “reach” that magic number I may or may not have in my mind, its not like that’s the end of it. I’m changing patterns that I’ve formed in my life for the past 18 years, and its not easy. But its also not impossible, and so critical to live a life of energy and longevity.
So, I guess I didn’t really condense at all, but believe it or not this is shorter than the first reply. Haha! I didn’t even *being* to get into regular exercise…yikes!(which is probably because its still the most difficult for me…self control I can muster daily, but convincing myself to get up and be active is entirely different!) But if you need any help/encouragement/support you can *always* message me on facebook or e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’ve so been in a place where I’ve needed support or encouragement (even recently) and I can totally answer any questions or help you can way I can.
And thank you for the compliment - I’ve still got a long way to go, but its always really encouraging when people not only take the time to notice, but have the courage to say something about it :)
“A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other…Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever”—Dave Matthews (Submitted by: kate-kate-kate) (via quote-book)